Last night, I was chatting with a friend of mine about friendship. In particular, female friendship at the stage of life we are in (post-college), and I had a moment of revelation about something. I said to her, "I have such clear ideas and thoughts on most things in my life--not that I have everything figured out, but I have clear thoughts on my marriage, my faith, my role as a daughter and a sister, my hopes for the future. But I don't have clear thoughts on friendship."
For me, female friendships have always been the most complicated relationships in my life. They are confusing. They require a give and take but so often it's imbalanced. They can get very emotional, despite efforts to avoid drama. It's hard to know when to speak up and when to accept. What values need to line up and which ones don't. Who will let you down and who won't.
I hadn't planned to write a post about this today, so I will make this one brief, but I'd like to come back to this subject once I've thought more about it. It's difficult to write about a topic that I just admitted I don't have clear thoughts on, but I think it will be interesting to try.
What do you think? Are you confused by female friendship?